I have not blogged in a very long time. Today’s events – a shooting in my community left me with too many thoughts, some of which I share here.
It is a beautiful spring day and I am working outside. No sooner do I send a selfie to my family, sharing the backyard views than my husband calls. There is an active shooter in the local supermarket. Three shot, one dead, two critical. Shooter is still at large, and I hear helicopters and sirens and our community facebook group says schools on lock-down, shelter in place. I come inside, lock all my doors, alarm the house, and look out on the cardinals visiting my blossoming trees and cry.
I have lost track of how many shootings there have been in the US in the past week or so. On some of those days, my husband would arrive home and report the news of the latest shooting, it barely registered, part of the numbing effect of too much and too frequent tragedy. In all cases, the shootings happen to others, other people, other communities. Yes, it was frightening, but it was an abstract fear – a general concern about the state of the country, the lack of safety in far-off places.
Today, it became personal. I had been planning a shopping trip to two stores adjacent to the supermarket and was thinking of how to break up my workday and run errands. Now all I can focus on is how we can feel safe – if this can happen here, it can happen anywhere.
I am fairly well versed in trauma, as a clinical psychologist who has worked in the aftermath of 9/11, and hurricanes, and other tragedies. Before today, I recognized that in every shooting there were casualties and those present were certainly traumatized. Now, I know that the trauma impact of these events is so much broader.
I am not an expert on gun control, but it seems that these shooting events are not common in other parts of the world, and wonder why? What could we learn from the policies and culture in those places?
I do know that if we do not decrease the gun violence in this country, the costs will be devastating. Not just in lives lost, but in lives destroyed by traumatic anxiety, by chronic mourning for a lost sense of safety. The local media is discussing how difficult this shooting is for a community where “this does not happen”. That is how every community feels when violence invades -and even communities that live with too much violence on a daily basis may respond to a particular event with this does not happen here”.
Something needs to change. In today’s violence one life was lost, but as children throughout the county are in lock-down, as family members from across the globe check in on us, as the images of police cars fill the tv screen, it is clear that many more lives have been harmed, contaminated with fear, touched by trauma. Each time something like this happens, we are naturally thankful to be alive, but the reality is – we cannot live like this.